Coaching Thoughts
Coaching creates accountability to make progress and fulfil goals. Coaching avoids advising or diagnosing. While problem-thinking focuses on what is wrong, outcome-thinking requires self-distancing and provides the platform to move towards something you want rather than away from something you wish to avoid.
The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.
Denis Waitley
The communication style of leaders helps us distinguish great leaders from the wannabes. When facing a problem the great leader says, ‘Let’s find out,’ while the wannabe says, ‘Nobody knows.’
Have you ever suggested an idea that didn’t land, only to have it suggested and heartily taken up by someone else a little while later? Ideas based on Michael Grinder’s Professional Development Model explain this.
Timing and permission are key micro-skills of communication which are often missing in organisations. They are valid in many aspects of communication eg feedback or contributing in meetings.
The communication style of leaders helps us distinguish great leaders from the wannabes. When facing a problem the great leader says, ‘Let’s find out,’ while the wannabe says, ‘Nobody knows.’
Whatever it is, if it doesn’t make you happy, walk away, give it away to someone else who wants it. Let it be their next dream; let it flee from you. Then you have room to grow, to allow magnificent things to fill the vacuum of those seemingly empty places. When you hold onto yesterday, when you hold onto dead and dying adventures, you have no room in your box for greatness. Unknown
There are two schools of thought about opportunity. The first is that it is dependent on chance, and if you're lucky, and in the right place, at the right time, it may fall into your lap. The second is that we create our own opportunities.
Without change, there is no innovation, creativity, or incentive for improvement. Those who initiate change will have a better opportunity to manage the change that is inevitable.
William Pollard
Almost all quality improvement comes via simplification of design, manufacturing… layout, processes, and procedures.
Tom Peters
Choosing is one of our innate gifts in life. We are faced with choices daily, and our trajectory, both professional and personal, are determined by the quality of the choices we make. How do we consciously weigh up the pros and cons of a specific action, or do we just ricochet off other people's actions and therefore choices for us?
It is our choices…that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. ~ J. K. Rowling
There is no doubt that creativity is the most important human resource of all. Without creativity, there would be no progress, and we would be forever repeating the same patterns. - Edward de Bono, Maltese physician, author, inventor and consultant. He originated the term lateral thinking, wrote the book Six Thinking Hats and is a proponent of the deliberate teaching of thinking as a subject in schools.
Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you love to do, in order to have what you want. - Margaret Young, American musician 1900-1968
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By releasing control over circumstances, you gain more control over your life. - Kyle Maynard; speaker, author, and ESPY award-winning mixed martial arts athlete, known for achieving all this despite being a congenital amputee.
Great communication depends on two simple skills:
- context, which attunes a leader to the same frequency as his or her audience
- delivery, which allows a leader to phrase messages in a language the audience can understand.
- John Maxwell, leadership specialist; author
I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do. - Leonardo da Vinci, Italian painter, sculptor, architect, musician, scientist, mathematician, engineer, inventor, anatomist, geologist, cartographer, botanist, and writer
Many men go fishing all of their lives without knowing that it is not fish they are after. ~ Henry David Thoreau, American author, poet, philosopher, abolitionist, naturalist, tax resister, development critic, surveyor, historian, and leading transcendentalist.
End each project or even the end of each day by conducting a review. This provides a constructive sense of completion and frees you up mentally and emotionally to start the next project with a fresh perspective and clean slate. This also sets up a positive upward spiral of growth and development.
How aware are we of our strengths, weaknesses, our impact on others, or where we put our energy when we're on autopilot? Now more than ever, in this time of unprecedented fear and uncertainty, we owe it to ourselves and to others to be more discriminating about what we watch, read, listen to and share. 'People tend to be generous when sharing their nonsense, fear, and ignorance… They seem quite eager to feed you their negativity… Be cautious with what you feed your mind and soul. Fuel yourself with positivity and let that fuel propel you into positive action.' - Steve Maraboli.
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'The world is perfect. It’s a mess. It has always been a mess. We are not going to change it. Our job is to straighten out our own lives'. – Joseph Campbell. What a great time to stop worrying about global events and take stock of our own backyards.
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'The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.' -Steve Jobs
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Taking charge of your own learning is a part of taking charge of your life, which is an essential condition in becoming an integrated person. -Warren G Bennis
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'To raise new questions, new possibilities, to regard old problems from a new angle, requires creative imagination and marks real advance in science.' – Albert Einstein
